Comments on: How to Love That Other Number on the Enneagram (All Nine Types)

By: Lisa notes

Lisa notes — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 11:54:11 +0000

In reply to Rena Reeve. I think it means to let sixes proceed with their "what if's" until they imagine the worst thing that can happen, instead of stopping them early by saying, "That would never happen" and cutting them off. Sometimes I have to do that with myself. :)

By: Rena Reeve

Rena Reeve — Fri, 26 Jul 2019 11:42:10 +0000

For number six, you say, “Sixes know that life is uncertain and can’t be predicted. Remind Sixes that they need to trust their own experiences with God. Help them by exasperating the situation even worse. Listen to all their fears. (Half the world are Sixes.)”

What do you mean by “exasperating the situation even worse”?

By: LisaNotes

LisaNotes — Tue, 07 Aug 2018 19:53:36 +0000

In reply to Lucas.

That was likely more of a compilation than a direct quote from the book so I’ll take responsibility for it. And thank you for making your point. I see what you’re saying. And agree with you. (I’m deleting the offending sentence altogether; it wasn’t clear enough and lacked context.)

Everyone (regardless of their number) wants to be taken seriously and deserves to be. (And as a five, wing four, I know I want that.)

I think the authors would agree, too. From what I can ascertain, both of them consistently respect other people’s emotions. Thanks for sharing, Lucas.

By: Lucas

Lucas — Tue, 07 Aug 2018 19:33:29 +0000

In reply to Lucas. Wait, did you just quote the book? If so, I'm sorry. I wish I could send my words to the author.

By: Lucas

Lucas — Tue, 07 Aug 2018 19:25:11 +0000

I have a rebuttal. Regarding type fours, your statement, “Don’t take their drama personally” is being subjective against the four. This implies that we should not take their emotions seriously, that it is a farce, a fantasy, a game to be ignored. I recognize that this blog post is concise, and therefore there are shortfalls in each typology. However, as a four, I find that not being taken seriously is exactly what the four is NOT seeking and a large reason why fours slip into depression and loneliness. Furthermore, to write off the four’s intense emotions because they are intense is to not only delegitimize their genuine human experience, it is to do the same to oneself. I recommend you change your conception of the four and modify your statement to reflect that. Those who read this post, fours or not, may be incorrectly swayed.

By: Beverley

Beverley — Mon, 28 Nov 2016 21:25:46 +0000

yes, i guess it would be the same 😀

By: LisaNotes

LisaNotes — Fri, 25 Nov 2016 18:58:42 +0000

In reply to Beverley. I didn't know that! Thanks for explaining "mug" to me, Beverley. I love learning new uses of words, from one side of the ocean to the other. :) Our version of mug might be sucker or chump. You all may use those words, too?

By: Beverley

Beverley — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 15:36:25 +0000

or because of my kind easy nature people take advantage of me and i feel like a ‘mug’

By: Beverley

Beverley — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 15:35:33 +0000

The word ‘mug’ as in you’re a mug – is someone who is seen as gullible or easily taken advantage of…now you know 🙂

By: LisaNotes

LisaNotes — Mon, 21 Nov 2016 20:06:28 +0000

In reply to Beverley. No, I have no idea what you mean by mugs! ha. Please tell.