Comments on: Empathize with the Hurt {Mantra 7}

By: Maree Dee

Maree Dee — Fri, 11 Feb 2022 19:21:36 +0000

Lisa,
Such beautiful words of wisdom. Have you ever seen the clip from Brene Brown on Empathy and Sympathy? It is hilarious and gets the point across? You have challenged me to pause and recognize what I am offering—sympathy or empathy? Thank you. I love that you address when we can’t relate to another’s pain. That was my question as I read.

Many times I have gotten sympathy that only made me feel worse. But I have some fantastic friends who haven’t clue what I am going through that offer empathy even when they don’t understand. It’s a gift.

Sharing!

By: Katie Dale

Katie Dale — Fri, 11 Feb 2022 14:59:38 +0000

I am so thankful for the people in my life who’ve shown me empathy, even sympathy at times when they couldn’t say, “Me too,” but offered their condolences. Compassion is something I need to strive for and remind myself to have toward others in their trials, hurts injustices. it’s easier to say they are wrong, they don’t know what they’re talking about, rather than listen to understand the see the deeper place they are coming from. Thank you for this reminder.

By: Michele Morin

Michele Morin — Fri, 11 Feb 2022 11:03:36 +0000

“Connecting to what one is feeling about an experience ”
Yes, that’s a crucial step in coming alongside someone’s pain.

By: Bethany McIlrath

Bethany McIlrath — Wed, 09 Feb 2022 12:55:15 +0000

Such a helpful explanation of empathy, thank you!

By: Maryleigh

Maryleigh — Wed, 09 Feb 2022 02:53:48 +0000

My MIL could empathize – it was a gift she had. She could crawl down into the hole with you and help you bear your pain. You say it so well, “connecting to what someone is feeling about an experience.”

By: Theresa Boedeker

Theresa Boedeker — Mon, 07 Feb 2022 21:43:48 +0000

Focusing on the hurt behind the words is such good advice. Imagine if this was what we all did? Our mental health would be way better. For both them and us. Trying to argue the facts when they are hurting is like trying to talk sense into a toddler that’s having a tantrum. It is not possible. And yet, I have tried.

By: Anita Ojeda

Anita Ojeda — Mon, 07 Feb 2022 19:52:31 +0000

I needed this today, my friend! I’m so often caught up in facts and figures and thinking I know things instead of feeling and seeing things. Thank you for the reminder.

By: Barb Hegreberg

Barb Hegreberg — Mon, 07 Feb 2022 19:42:17 +0000

If we attempt to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes before we react we would probably be much kinder & gentler in tough situations.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Mon, 07 Feb 2022 18:48:49 +0000

Some good counsel here. I try to remember when thinking about responding to many things and choices in life…just because I can doesn’t mean I should.

By: Lisa Blair

Lisa Blair — Mon, 07 Feb 2022 16:41:02 +0000

This is profound, Lisa, and much needed, “It is the hurt that needs healing, not the facts that need correcting. I zero in on her hurt. I empathize with the hurt.”