Comments on: Do You Need to Explain Yourself?

By: Jason

Jason — Sun, 11 Feb 2024 20:43:00 +0000

Funny how all these comments are from women! So here is a man’s point of view ! My problem is more of over explanations of the point I am trying to convey the same as trying to get your point across ! People take offense to it and can not stand it ! They want thier way and thier point to be made and you to follow it but your point is null and void meaning nothing and doesn’t want to be heard even it is logical or makes sense ! ok enough explaing cause the last person I tried to explain to just earlier typed omg did you have to write a book but as usual I ethier block ppl or just let them have the last word because they think they win and if that makes them feel better and that is fine !

By: LisaNotes

LisaNotes — Wed, 02 Feb 2022 01:01:40 +0000

In reply to Cindy Davis. No, I have not read this book, but just reading the title, it sounds like I should. :) I'm going to look it up right now. Thanks for the suggestion, Cindy!!!

By: Cindy Davis

Cindy Davis — Wed, 02 Feb 2022 00:41:36 +0000

I get this! Have you read Spouse in the House by Becky Melby and CynthiaRuchti? If not, I highly recommend it as you prepare for your husband’s retirement.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Sun, 23 Jan 2022 04:54:21 +0000

Oh how I relate. I have a feeling I’ll be following your ‘release’ very closely! Thank you for sharing Lisa!

By: ~ linda

~ linda — Sat, 22 Jan 2022 16:19:36 +0000

Oh, this is so appropriate for ‘release’ and in January yet!! Ouch! Now that I live alone, those things are not as obvious to me. Yet, Kenneth was even more particular than I am. I was the one who retired from a job away from home. He was the one who needed to adjust to me being home and I am also OCD! So we learned to dance and it was all good. I so miss him now. May we learn to allow measuring cups to be our only issue!!

By: Karen Friday

Karen Friday — Sat, 22 Jan 2022 15:48:27 +0000

Lisa, we are kindred spirits for certain! lol. I smiled through the introduction because this is something I would take ownership of…stacking mearsuring cups just makes sense and takes up a lot less room in kitchen drawers and cabinets needed for storage. It is hard for me to let go of these things and always has been. Still, I know none of it matters in light of eternity. And like you, I hate to be misunderstood, especially when assumptions are made that are not true. Stacking measuring cups doesn’t transform into, “I don’t want you to retire.” But that is something my husband would come up with too. 🙂 Thanks for the reminder.

By: Lory @ Entering the Enchanted Castle

Lory @ Entering the Enchanted Castle — Sat, 22 Jan 2022 07:23:24 +0000

I can so relate to this! I also hate to be misunderstood. I also over-justify and over-explain myself. And it also gets me into trouble with my dear husband. I have gotten better over the years at stopping such unprofitable explanations, but often I’m left with simmering discomfort. I also need to work on releasing that anxiety that is left when I don’t feel understood. It does help to remember that God understands what even I do not fully understand.

By: Debbie Wilson

Debbie Wilson — Fri, 21 Jan 2022 15:19:46 +0000

Lisa, I can so relate. Those little things can get under my skin too. I love to open a drawer and have order. Be able to see what’s there. Over Christmas I reorganized our laundry/pantry room. But no one else cares about keeping my system of order! Release is a good word. My word is contentment. When I release I experience contentment.

By: Barb Hegreberg

Barb Hegreberg — Thu, 20 Jan 2022 22:13:09 +0000

Oh Lisa, I see myself in your story. How often do I try in vain to convince people that my way is better without even listening to their opinion. Ugh! I definitely need to RELEASE my need to be right. It is far more important to be kind and loving than it is to be right. Thanks for the lesson.

By: Donna B Reidland

Donna B Reidland — Thu, 20 Jan 2022 17:09:32 +0000

I can definitely relate! As you said, “Silence can be a practice in humility.”