Comments on: Can You Take Some Criticism?

By: Lauren Sparks

Lauren Sparks — Fri, 18 Aug 2023 19:04:36 +0000

I am always so tender to criticism. And I have received (you probably have too) my fair share for the things I put out on my blog!

By: Lynn

Lynn — Tue, 15 Aug 2023 14:46:46 +0000

I’m hopeful that my feedback is not taken as criticism. Some days I am more fragile than others, especially if tired, so try to wait out my feelings of being criticized. Time is a healer and provides discernment!

By: Carla

Carla — Sun, 13 Aug 2023 17:54:12 +0000

My father taught me how to receive criticism as feedback when I was in a composition class in high school. I received a horrible grade on a paper and was devastated; my father encouraged me to ask to meet with my teacher after school and ask for in person feedback, which I did. Over the course of that semester my grade dramatically improved and I actually kept the last composition I wrote for that teacher on which he wrote, “Your writing shows what a human person you are.”

This is an unasked for response, but I can’t help but feel like your friend was inappropriate to ask you to be the messenger for your mutual friend. She was asking you to do something that she felt strongly about; she was asking you to criticize your mutual friend. I wonder how she might have responded if you replied that since this was something that was important to her she needed to be the person to share it with your mutual friend. Perhaps I’ve misinterpreted the story, and if so, please forgive me!

By: Paula

Paula — Sun, 13 Aug 2023 15:27:03 +0000

Oh boy, this is a big one for me. I crumble at criticism. {insert hurt feelings here}. I guess I’m getting better as I age and mature in Christ. I’m a recovering people pleaser though. so, you know.
visiting today from G&T. xo

By: Harry Katz

Harry Katz — Sat, 12 Aug 2023 13:47:44 +0000

Thanks for this thoughtful post.

I like the second definition too. Thinking of it as “feedback” rather than “criticism” also helps me put the focus on my work or actions rather then on me as a person. I’d argue feedback is essential to our growth and learning, especially at work but in our personal relationships too. Still, I agree, it’s not always easy to receive.

By: Barbara Harper

Barbara Harper — Sat, 12 Aug 2023 01:18:19 +0000

Thanks so much or featuring my post, Lisa. I like that second definition. I think it’s hardest when criticism comes unexpectedly. My natural reaction is to get defensive, or to think the other person just doesn’t understand, or to think about *their* faults. Sad, but true. But I’m trying to seek grace to take it and sift it for truth and receive it graciously as from one who is trying to help. I try to remind myself, too, that I have a great many faults and errors they know nothing about.

By: Debbie Wilson

Debbie Wilson — Sat, 12 Aug 2023 01:13:13 +0000

I ask for constructive feedback when I’m working on something. But it stings when you’ve done your best and receive expressions of disapproval. I have learned to consider the source.

By: Lynn D. Morrissey

Lynn D. Morrissey — Fri, 11 Aug 2023 18:19:58 +0000

Is is never easy to received, deserved or not, but I’m convinced the attitude in which it is delivered makes all the difference, along with time to process. I try not to react, but say thank you (operative word her is *try*!), and then, if it is deserved, try to learn and apply.

Thanks for sharing something with which I’m sure we all struggle!

xo
Lynn

Conversely, I try my best to deliver compliments whenever possible. My favorite thing is to have a somber face and ask to see a store manager. They come with both barrels loaded; one can tell. And then with a smile I deliver a compliment about an employee. The boss almost falls over. It’s a wonderful trick I have, and they are so grateful! Also if someone is rude, I try my level best to find something genuinely positive about them and tell them. This too changes attitudes.

By: Michele Morin

Michele Morin — Fri, 11 Aug 2023 18:01:04 +0000

Writing for other sites and working with their editors has really helped me to become more open to criticism. I do think that it’s a learning curve!

By: Donna Reidland

Donna Reidland — Fri, 11 Aug 2023 15:25:45 +0000

I’ve written about this a number of times and it’s something I have to talk about frequently when counseling. And I sympathize with those I’m talking to because it’s a challenge for me at times, as well. I don’t think it ever gets really easy. But your suggestions are so helpful, Lisa.