Comments on: Can We Learn to Fail Well?

By: Melynda Brown

Melynda Brown — Thu, 14 Dec 2023 13:56:02 +0000

I love this! Yes, we all will fail, we might as well do a proper job of it! One of my features for WTJR 12.15.2023. Thank you for sharing with us!

By: David

David — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 21:32:52 +0000

Great summary of the book! very tempted to pick it up. I watched a webinar the author did, discussing team work — and the importance (and potential) of psychological safety. I have put her book “Teaming” on my Christmas wish list ????

Beaming good vibes and prayers for your difficult conversations. Fumbling after being brave and stepping up can be especially hard to take. I’ll pray that the failure was more apparent than real and that positive developments are afoot.

By: stephanie

stephanie — Wed, 13 Dec 2023 03:50:59 +0000

Lisa, I have faced many difficult situations in the past. Recently, I found myself in the middle of some unwanted drama. I had to decide whether it was worth letting those people get the best of me or letting go of the situation and allowing them to believe what they wanted. I chose to let go, but it was still frustrating. At first, I felt like I had failed, but then I was reminded that God is always with me, no matter what. I realized there was nothing to prove, and I took this experience as another life lesson. Thank you for sharing this with us at The Crazy Little Love Birds link party.
P.S. I hope you and your husband are feeling much better this week!

By: Donna Reidland

Donna Reidland — Tue, 12 Dec 2023 15:24:19 +0000

Lisa, I can relate. It’s so much easier to explain to someone else how they should handle a difficult situation than to handle one ourselves. I’ve had plenty of my own failures. Isn’t it good that we can run back to the cross and receive His mercy and grace when we do? And then to seek His help to make it right or learn from our mistakes.

By: Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog

Ashley Rowland | HISsparrowBlog — Mon, 11 Dec 2023 14:57:16 +0000

Oh, my! at the times I have struggled with failure. Especially when I was younger and convinced that I was unintelligent and not enough. Each failure just seemed to confirm what “I already knew.” As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that failure goes along with life. Just like you said, we don’t know everything. I typically choose to not think of it in terms of “failing” because I’ve also learned as I’ve gotten older that that word implies that we know exactly what to do or say in every situation, and we just didn’t do it. But that’s not how it works. If I’m showing up, then I can’t “fail”—no matter the outcome.

By: Dianna

Dianna — Mon, 11 Dec 2023 12:18:59 +0000

These words, “Aim for excellence instead of perfection. ” were words that I needed to be reminded of. I am noticing that I have a tendency to not do something at all because I prefer things to turn out perfectly. In my head, I know that’s unrealistic to try living life like that because in the end, no one can do everything perfectly.

By: Donna-Lynn E Connolly

Donna-Lynn E Connolly — Sun, 10 Dec 2023 02:44:25 +0000

Hi, Lisa – Embracing our failures is excellent advice. I am grateful for mine because every single failure amd missteps equally with my positive steps led me to where I sit right now…and it’s a pretty good place to sit! <3

By: Tea With Jennifer

Tea With Jennifer — Fri, 08 Dec 2023 22:34:04 +0000

Oh yes Lisa I have been there too! And I’m a trained and experienced negotiator & mediator! But with personal conversations that we need to have it can be an entirely different scenario altogether! I too have failed at these times.
Great post, blessings, Jennifer

By: Jean Wise

Jean Wise — Fri, 08 Dec 2023 19:58:14 +0000

I cringe at the thought of lowering my standards. Funny I caught myself reacting to that. too much perfectionism and fear of failure in my life. I am learning to recognize it but not handling it well yet.

By: CraftAtticResources

CraftAtticResources — Fri, 08 Dec 2023 17:43:30 +0000

I think one challenge is to accept what we can change and learn from and to let go of the things we can’t control. One of the reasons I know I avoid facing those challenging conversations is often you know the outcome isn’t going to be good. However, I’m slowly learning that I only own what I’m responsible for and I do have to have good stewardship of that but I don’t own other people’s responsibilities and emotions. I will take responsibility and make amends were I have caused harm but I will not be abused for things I have no control over.

I’m also learning to have more patience with myself. Some of this comes from taking time to empty the tanks so to speak with guided meditation, prayer and time to refresh because stuff seems to get stuck in a cycle when I don’t take time to actively release it.