Comments on: 5 Ways to Let Go of Unrealistic Expectations

By: Corinne Rodrigues

Corinne Rodrigues — Mon, 16 May 2022 13:03:35 +0000

Like you said, it’s okay to be hopeful, necessary, even, but having expectations especially from other people can lead to so many problems.
Learning to release our tight hold on outcomes is the only way forward. Thank you for the reminder, Lisa.

By: Tammy Kennington

Tammy Kennington — Thu, 28 Apr 2022 17:41:39 +0000

Hi Lisa,
I feel as though you’ve been reading my mail (or my non-existent text messages.)
I’ll try to put these wise points in action. Thank you for the sound advice.

Sigh…

Blessings,
Tammy

By: Lisa Blair

Lisa Blair — Fri, 22 Apr 2022 18:05:15 +0000

I’m sad that your loved one chose not to “show up” and agree with you in prayer for continued grace as you release them into His care, then show them love and compassion in every future interaction.

By: Donna B Reidland

Donna B Reidland — Thu, 21 Apr 2022 15:23:20 +0000

I’ve been there, too, Lisa. In fact, I have a couple of similar situations right now. And it’s hard.

By: Lauren Renee Sparks

Lauren Renee Sparks — Mon, 18 Apr 2022 16:25:13 +0000

This is so hard! Thanks for writing about the tough stuff. I love the way you interrupted the story for your points. Great storytelling.

By: Barb Hegreberg

Barb Hegreberg — Mon, 18 Apr 2022 09:40:44 +0000

Re-reading on #IMM.

Have a wonderful week.

By: David

David — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 03:03:51 +0000

Gosh, how can pixels on a screen raise such emotion and sympathy? I am too fast, I categorise and draw lines and forget. Deep grief but it has gone already. Maybe I’ll be surprised by joy. The Lord is the harmoniser.

Elsewhere though I am prey to my expectations, looking in every spare moment, maybe someone has said “hello”, … your five ways are a good way to welcome that expectation and embrace and explore it (rather than be led by it).

Oi! Some of your phrases are so telling! ❤️

By: Barb Hegreberg

Barb Hegreberg — Sat, 16 Apr 2022 02:01:36 +0000

I’m heartbroken that you weren’t able to connect with your “missing” loved one.

Look at it this way, God is working behind the scenes & someday it will all make sense.

By: Tea With Jennifer

Tea With Jennifer — Sat, 16 Apr 2022 00:50:11 +0000

I find faith & our expectations of a situation are so different aren’t they Lisa!

Faith is, we hope for what we do not see, placing it all in God’s hands & in His timing.

Where our expectations place a timing upon what ‘we’ want to see happen (often leaving God’s timing & way of doing it out of the equation).

Waiting is the hardest thing for us to do.
But I’ve found that’s when God works best when we wait with ‘expectant faith’ that His Will will to be done in His timing.
Bless you this Easter,
Jennifer

By: Donna

Donna — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 19:19:45 +0000

I’m sorry Lisa. I can honestly say I know how you feel. I’ve been waiting for “that” text for over 3 years.
One of my favorite quotes is “Expectations are simply disappointments waiting to happen”. And when you think about it, that is too often the case.
I noticed you used the word “hope” in that it’s healthy and normal to get our “hopes” up. I think a good place to land is knowing the difference between hope and expectations. Expectations, are rigid and imply we get what we want, when we want it, and when we don’t, well, we’re disappointed, and struggle accepting reality.
Hope on the other hand, is not vested in a controlled outcome, but implies a positive desire for a particular outcome. When that outcome is not realized, we more easily embrace the reality and live to hope another day.