Comments on: 4 Keys to Make and Keep a BFF {Stranger Than Fiction}

By: CurlyGeek

CurlyGeek — Mon, 21 Nov 2022 20:59:00 +0000

This sounds like a great topic, I really struggle to make and maintain friendships as I get older. Since you liked this, you might enjoy “Sorry I’m Late I Didn’t Want to Come” by Jessica Pan, an interesting look at one woman’s approach to be less introverted and what she learns along the way.

By: Molly

Molly — Sun, 20 Nov 2022 04:08:11 +0000

Oh this could not resonate more with me! I moved to Chicago right before the pandemic and still have the sum total of zero friends in this city. I am going to read this book if only to live vicariously because, like you, I don’t have the emotional energy for this!

By: Jeanne Takenaka

Jeanne Takenaka — Thu, 17 Nov 2022 00:35:55 +0000

Lisa, what a great post! Making friends as we grow older is challenging. I went through a season where I had no real, close friends. That was my “learning to find companionship with God” phase of life. When friendships stopped being my idol, God gave me an amazing group of friends. More recently, I’ve been trying to reach out to a few people. I had coffee with a lady who is further along in this life journey. We didn’t quite gel, and I think this is why: ” When I’m vulnerable in conversations, I want appropriate responses and interaction.” Sometimes, what we want are responses that show the other person can relate to what we share. What I received was a female “Fix it” response. her wisdom was spot-on. It just wasn’t what I needed in that moment. This is a lightbulb moment for me! Silly as that may seem. Thanks, Lisa.

By: Liz Dexter

Liz Dexter — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 22:14:07 +0000

Wow, I could never do that, either! I’m fortunate to have made good friendships as an adult through two hobbies, BookCrossing and running (and through blogging, too!). And it’s true that you have to be open to being vulnerable – I am closer to my newer friends in a different way after I learned not to hide various things about my life story.

By: Shelleyrae @ Book’d Out

Shelleyrae @ Book’d Out — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 10:25:50 +0000

I’m pretty curious about this since the pandemic has altered many of my friendships, thanks for sharing

By: Christopher @ Plucked from the Stacks

Christopher @ Plucked from the Stacks — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 05:17:10 +0000

I really, really like that you chose to highlight this this week. It’s a complicated subject as an adult, and it never hurts to have a little refresher. And what a cool concept for a book. I don’t think I’d have the stamina for it either, but hey, whatever works!

By: Linda Stoll

Linda Stoll — Wed, 16 Nov 2022 01:12:59 +0000

The premise sounds fascinating, in real life it would be exhausting, but the lessons learned are priceless.

By: Barbara Harper

Barbara Harper — Mon, 14 Nov 2022 19:30:52 +0000

That’s true–it is harder to make friends as an adult. I think it probably has a lot to do with the fact that we’re naturally thrown together with other kids in school or in the neighborhood or sports or whatever. We see people regularly, and friendships arise from all the time we spend together. Then the same things happen in college or early job situations. Then as young moms, we got to know other moms working in the church nursery or meeting at the park so kids to play together.

But it seems like after that, we have to make a special effort to get together with people. And even in all those scenarios, it’s possible to have many acquaintances but not any real friends.

I wouldn’t want to do what Rachel did, either, meeting with someone new every week. But if friendships arise from time together and interaction, I need to get over my natural inclination to stay to myself at home.

By: Martha J Orlando

Martha J Orlando — Mon, 14 Nov 2022 15:34:46 +0000

This really hit home, Lisa. I’ve lost touch with so many folks with whom I used to be friends, and am not really sure how to reconnect with them since I’m not on social media. Perhaps, I should read this book and get some inspiration.
Blessings!

By: Deb Nance at Readerbuzz

Deb Nance at Readerbuzz — Mon, 14 Nov 2022 14:29:46 +0000

I think we all could do better in our world if we read these books and applied what we learned in our lives. One of the biggest problems in our world, in my opinion, is our lack of connection to others.